We're not ever going to get to the place where we don't want to blame every little thing that goes wrong in our lives on someone else. It's the ego's first defense.
But we can get to the place where we're becoming aware of it.
The brighter the light, the darker the shadow…
The brighter the light, the darker the shadow. Each of us has some part of our personality that is hidden from us. Parents, and teachers in general, urge us to develop the light side of the personality — move into well-lit subjects such as mathematics and geometry — and to become successful. The dark part then becomes starved. What do we do then? –Robert Bly, A Little Book on the Human Shadow
Projection of shadow material
Projection of shadow material causes most of the misery, injustice and warfare in the world. –Robert Bly
Learning to integrate shadow material is the single most important task facing mankind, as failure to do so will lead to the extinction of the human race. –Carl Jung