Hate has more to do with us than with them

Overheard this line as I walked through the kitchen, which was coming from the tail end of a program on NPR. Unfortunately I can't tell you the name of the program, because I just caught the very last line:

Hate has more to do with you than with them.

And it kept running through my mind today as I walked through the woods.

Hate has more to do with us than with them…

Yeah. Exactly. That's the whole point here.

Admitting your ego casts a shadow so you can start to deal with its consequences.

Beginning to realize that the real enemies lie within.

 

The only devils in the world are those running around in our own hearts.

That is where the battle should be fought.

–Mahatma Gandhi

 

Fear of Change

A person who doesn't want to change themselves can't afford to acknowledge the changes that other people make. Particularly hard changes, soul changes, positive changes. On a sub-conscious level, it's just too threatening. Oh my gosh! If they can change, that means I could, too!

If we fear change ourselves for some reason — from a narrow and biased upbringing, or from love of the staqus quo, or from sheer spiritual laziness — we pigeon-hole another person early on So-and-so is like this, and then spend the rest of our lives trying not to let that particular pigeon out of the cage we've constructed for it in our minds. Even if it turns into a swan or an eagle or a phoenix right before our eyes.

You see it all the time in families. You see it all the time in politics.

We accuse the other person (or the other party) of acting the way they did 20 years ago or 30 years ago or 40 years ago, rather than making an honest effort to see how they're acting right now.

Wonder what this world would be like if we let one another change, if we let one another grow.

 

 

Muttering Monsters

[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2SU5FSvi_QM]

Hate has a lot in common with love… that fixation on the other… We each have a muttering monster living in our hearts who is not going to stop muttering about others until we really listen to what he has to say.

Illustrations by Bob Hobbs, from Shadow in the USA

Nested Russian Dolls

[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kugVsHhXnDE]

We're not just stuck in ego and family roles; we're stuck in social-historical-mythological roles as well.

Illustrations by Bob Hobbs, from Shadow in the USA

History

[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P4FubULXkFQ]

How a little old lady in Oregon became crazy enough to think she ought to promote a better understanding of the human shadow, and why the resulting book is illustrated.

Illustrations by Bob Hobbs, from Shadow in the USA

Something is amiss, and it’s lurking in our shadows

[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oic_OBNiID4]

Your "shadow" is the stuff you don't like about yourself, the stuff you don't want anyone else to know about you. And if you just can't stand to face some of your own stuff, then you will see your own stuff on someone else's face.

Illustrations by Bob Hobbs, from "Shadow in the USA"

Integration

[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HvEvwJ8NbEU]

We can't "get rid of" our shadows. But we can strive to integrate — to successfully combine — the inner and the outer.

Illustrations by Bob Hobbs for "Shadow in the USA"

Debt Reduction Is Not Our Biggest Problem, Folks

Why is the entire “conservative” wing of our country obsessing about debt reduction right now? Is debt reduction actually our biggest problem? Or is debt reduction just a distraction, a dodge?

Our leaders leaning-to-the-right seem to think that citizens of the USA are so weak-minded and easily distracted they will completely forget that their budget was balanced the last time one of their chosen took up residence in the White House. That after 8 years of George Junior’s leadership—including two unfunded wars, massive deregulation and unbridled speculation—our whole economy imploded. Just flat fell in on itself. We are supposed to be so stupid and gullible that we will forget what happened to us in the past, as well as what is happening to us at the moment, and just buy whatever line they happen to be selling… which is whatever line they feel will get them into the White House again, whether it’s true or not, and whether it makes any sense or not.

Every economist alive (except the ones being paid by right-wing think tanks) is trying to telling us that debt is not our most pressing problem right now. That getting people back to work is our most pressing problem right now. So why all this preoccupation with balanced budgets and the national debt? The best defense is a good offense…

The human shadow (the part of ourselves we just don’t want to admit) comes in layers, as does the subconscious mind where it dwells: there’s a personal layer, and there's a collective layer.  So we each have a personal shadow that can get out of hand—for example, we might make fun of how other people look if we’re insecure about our own attractiveness. And then we each participate in a collective shadow that can get out of hand—for example, we accuse other groups of evil when we can’t bear to face the evil our own group has done.

An excellent example of the latter type of projection occurred in US history at the end of WWII. After a saturation bombing of German cities by British and US forces that culminated in a firestorm at Dresden which was so intense it literally melted 100,000 people, the USA dropped two atomic bombs on a country that was trying to surrender to Allied forces.*

At Hiroshima and Nagasaki 150,000 people were killed instantly, and tens of thousands later died slowly and hideously from radiation poisoning. We’re talking more than 300,000 dead people here, and not soldiers, either—these were all completely innocent civilians who were going about their business in big cities. Gruesome. Way beyond gruesome.

Yet soon after these events, unable and unwilling to comprehend that such colossal evil could be perpetrated by their own country, citizens all over the USA (spurred on by their leaders), began to obsess about how dangerous Russia was, and to build bomb shelters in their backyards. Enter the ridiculously expensive and totally unnecessary Cold War.

I grew up with one of those bomb shelters in my backyard. (No lie: my Dad had an actual bomb shelter built on our property in Fort Worth, Texas, in the 1950s. At first it was all clean and full of water and canned goods, later it got dirty and full of spider webs and snakes, and then finally, after many years of neglect, my Aunt Eddie planted iris all over it, so it eventually became a little hill of flowers with a hollow core.) I also grew up hearing stories about how brutal the Japanese were in WWII. No one ever mentioned Hiroshima or Nagasaki or Dresden in my family.

In other words, there is a ‘me against you’ aspect to the personal shadow, and there is an ‘us against them’ aspect to the collective shadow. And projected out onto others, both types of shadow material harm—do actual damage to—the targets of their projections. Not just psychic mumbo-jumbo, real harm.

Debt reduction is not our biggest problem, folks. The shadow looming behind the need to fabricate such cock-eyed stories is our biggest problem.

* Howard Zinn, A People’s History of the United States. New York: HarperCollins, 2003. 421-25.


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We’re all bewitched

 Whenever we try to appear angelic on the surface, the devil inside dances.

                              

As soon as we become absolutely certain that our way is the only way, imps start to grin.

If we can’t admit being wrong… can’t calmly discuss important issues… simply won’t tolerate other points of view, much less change our minds faced with new evidence…

                            

when we are obviously much cooler and smarter, and other people are obviously much lamer and dumber…

                       

we are bewitched. Self-enchanted. Firmly stuck in a fairy tale role.

 

And there's only one way to break such a spell: to take off the mask that goes with whatever role we're playing.

To bare-facedly face the fact that every person on earth—you, me, and the guy in the corner booth over there—is just as much Court Jester as Wise King, just as much Wicked Witch as Snow White.

To go ahead and admit that we're not always perfect, so we can start to do something toward mending our mistakes.


 

 

 

 

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"I like your enthusiasm for the shadow."
                    –Robert Bly, National Book Award winning poet, storyteller, troublemaker and author of A Little Book on the Human Shadow.